End Porn Addiction: Do You Believe in Yourself?

The Power of Your Hand

The Index Finger Anchor: I’m Number One!

“Great accomplishments are achieved by people who acknowledge the greatness inside them, if only they believe in themselves.” –D.R. Criswell

Raise your index finger toward the sky and say, “I’m Number One!” Your first finger is an anchor, reminding you to take of yourself first to serve others.   

Next to God, You are Number One. Take care of your needs first, and then you are able help others.  

However, you must first answer a key question, “Do you believe in yourself?” The answer is very important. When you belief in you, only then will you find a way to break free from porn.

Your core beliefs about yourself determine how you perform in all aspects of life. The problem with viewing porn is it causes disempowering feelings such as shame, disgust, depression, guilt, isolation, anger, fear, self-loathing…. Have you felt the pain … the intense pain of doing porn?

Each and every one of us have had moments of greatness, when we achieved something we thought (at one time) was impossible. We were in a peak state of performance. We were in sync, where everything went right. Right now, I ask you to look back at those times in your life.  Answer these questions:

  • What was your focus?
  • What did you believe at that moment?
  • Do you remember the language you used, how you describe what you wanted to do?
  • What actions did you take to cause things to happen?

It wasn’t an accident, when you had an accomplishment in your life. You were the reason. You did three things: 

  1. Focused: You believed you could do it.
  2. Confessed: Your dialogue mirrored you belief. 
  3. Acted: Your actions reflected your belief.

Regarding pornography, I had come to the conclusion it would be a life long battle. I would never really get rid of it. Somehow, it would always come back. I hoped and prayed I wouldn’t die during a relapse.

I remembered when my belief changed. I was reading Chris Prentiss’s book, The Alcoholism and Addiction Cure, A Holistic Approach to Total Recovery. On the cover of his book Chris tells readers how the book will help the reader:

  • How to Heal the Underlying Causes
  • How to End Relapse
  • How to End Suffering

I was intrigue. In Chapter One he states, “Within the covers of this book, I will show you how you can cure your alcoholism or addiction.” Chris didn’t use words as “however,” “maybe,” “although,” or “perhaps.”

Just reading Chapter One I realized why I couldn’t stop viewing  pornography.  I didn’t believe a cure was possible. Then, I had another “Aha” experience. God wanted to cure me of my addiction, but I was part of the cure. I had to believe in me and choose to stop. God would strengthen me. With God’s strength I then could make good decisions to stay free from porn.

God would give me the emotional power to overcome porn, if only I believed in me.

I also discovered in studying Anthony Robbins’s book, Awaken the Giant Within, that beliefs are the source of all emotions we feel. And, emotion is the power that fuels all behavior. So, I had to empower my thinking (thoughts) with empowering beliefs and avoid any thought (including words and actions) that dis-empowered me in any way.

Right now, write down an accomplishment you are proud of…. It doesn’t have to be grand to be important. Just write one accomplishment.

  • What was your focus/belief?
  • Describe how you thought, talked and walked (actions you took). 
  • Now, describe some actions you’ll immediately take to stop porn.

Keep a Look Out for the Next Post: “The Power of Your Hand” The Second Finger Anchor: What Are You Prepared to Do Now?

To Your Peace, Power and Plenty,

Dale

Published by: curepornaddiction

In the year 1971 I became a store manager at age 19. I discovered I had a gift for mentoring. I gave one on one coaching, instruction and teaching with ease. And, I loved it. However, I had a problem that held me back from achieving my full potential. I was addicted to porn. When I was going through my puberty years in life, I found pornography (adult magazines) in my Dad's closet. I was hooked. I had my ups and downs throughout my life: Ups, when I was off of porn and using my gift: and, Downs, when I was using porn. Porn captured my attention, holding me back. I found the secrets to breaking free from porn. Like anyone else, I have to work at keeping my emotions positive, every day, to stay free. Limiting emotions--fear, doubt, hate, lust, sloth, pride, any emotion that kills joy. Joy is the ultimate weapon against porn. You have it; porn loses its hold on you. I dedicate this blog to those who are looking for ways to end pornography in their life. To Your Peace, Power and Plenty, Dale P.S. The picture above is not me. The photo represents all families free from pornography.

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