The Top 5 Tricks to Block Porn Cravings

Fight Fire with Fire
How to Use an Emotional Hell to Block Porn

Pornography Adddiction Recovery

Part Two of The Fire Technique:

The Furnace Principle

Stop!

Don’t view porn: don’t masturbate.

How do you stop the compulsive urge to view porn, even after the trigger has been pulled?

“Simply by linking pain to the behaviors we want to stop at such a high level of emotional intensity that we won’t even consider those behaviors any longer”–Anthony Robbins.

However, what do you do after you backslide into pornography again, for the umpteenth time?

I still remembered the moment. It had been a long time since I viewed pornography. Feeling rather good about it, I thought: porn was a thing of the past.

Later that day, intense sexual cravings hit me hard. Porn images blasted my thoughts. I became aroused. Guilt surfaced. Various porn sites entered my mind. I felt a hunger. “Go ahead. You’re aroused. Enjoy it. You’ve sinned anyways (a lie, hadn’t yet).  Just do it.”

Guilt ridden, feeling worthless, I ignored all the warnings signals (feelings) my body sent me. I shut out my conscience. I went online to a lingerie store.

I reasoned: It’s not porn. I won’t masturbate.

I was true to my word. I quickly browsed the lingerie catalog and got off line.

A couple of days later, after leafing through fitness sport magazines and swimsuit issues, I was running a porn marathon for hours on end.

Masturbation burned the sex acts on the screen into my brain. My body became a homing device, seeking sex of the mind in all categories. Totally consumed, my day was one continuous and never ending sexual experience.

However, I also felt acute anxiety in my gut. My conscience tightened my neck muscles, filling my body with extreme dread. Being away from porn a long time and now surfing the net every chance I got, my conscience was extremely sensitive.

Thoughts continuously looped over and over again:  No peace: Gone: Empty. These feelings pulled me back to reality. Self-loathing intensified my feelings. No one knew but me. Isolated and alone, I was miserable. I had no one to go to.

A light sheen of sweat spread over my body. Nauseous, thinking about what I was doing, what I’d become, I felt sick.

Short tempered, I became a jerk. Hateful, self-centered, everything was about me. Linda received the blunt end of my frustration and anger. It was her fault: If only we had more and better sex. Later, I was ashamed of how I treated her.

I became compulsive. It seemed like I had no control. A thought would hit my brain. Immediately, I would respond.

In business and social settings I was insecure, fearful of what people thought. Anxious, uncertain, a dread followed me. Yet, I was a selfish and self-centered. I lost a lot of sales. Worse yet, my eyes fell on everyones body parts. How embarrassing was that.

I had no peace. I felt no comfort. Conviction working into remorse, I asked God to forgive me; but, I couldn’t forgive myself for falling back into pornography.

I wanted to be free from this emotional hell. It was a furnace.

What was happening to me was The Furnace Principle.

A thought hit my brain:  Forgive yourself.

A dam broke; a cleansing took place. I then felt relief. However, I also felt stupid. I have done this a hundreds of time?

And then, I ask an important question.  Why?

If I could stop this time, why couldn’t I stop relapses from occurring in the first place?

Then, I had an epiphany. The emotional hell I experienced was a furnace.

I reasoned: Why couldn’t I use the intense emotional pain to kill cravings for porn and block a trigger in the first place?

So, I experimented with ways to cause intense pain at will. With a lot of trial and error I finally put something together. I call this new method:

The Furnace Principle.

I wrote down the Top 5 Tricks to block porn cravings by level of intensity. I made a list of negative (limiting) emotions that caused me intense pain every time I gave into sexual triggers.

Result: I developed the Furnace Principle using the Top 5 Tricks to block porn cravings and come back from a slide.

Here’s The Furnace Principle:

Suggestion: Do these exercises now.

Intense Heat: Limiting beliefs yield hurtful lifestyles, producing intensive pain.

Goal: Come Back from a Slide.

Action: Write a Firewall Statement to jump start clear thinking. Experience intense levels of emotional pain.

Firewall Statement: If I don’t change, I will become _____________ (gray), causing me to suffer _____________ (straw color), leading to _____________ feelings (red or orange), which will foster a sense of __________________ (yellow).

Confess (audibly), “Porn isn’t worth it. I choose peace!”

Example of Firewall Statement: If I don’t stop porn, I will become apathetic (gray), causing me to suffer uneasiness (straw), leading to distraught feelings (red or orange), which will foster a sense of hopelessness (yellow). Confess: “Porn isn’t worth it. I choose peace!”

Different levels of intensity, emotional pain, motivate change.

Trick One: Use Gray Feelings: A person who lacks warmth (most dangerous emotions) feels …

  • Apathetic,  Cool
  • Indifferent,  Listless
  • Callous, Dull
  • Insensitive, Lukewarm
  • Complacent,  Hard
  • Lethargic, Uninterested

Trick Two: Use Straw (color) Feelings: An individual who has feelings of uncertainty feels a sense of …

  • Annoyance, Bafflement
  • Inconvenience, Restlessness
  • Anxiousness, Discouragement
  • Irritability,  Uneasiness
  • Astonishment, Heaviness
  • Petulance,  Unpleasantness

Trick Three: Use Red Feelings: A person who feels unimportant or insignificant feels …

  • Angry, Disappointed, Distraught, Hopeless
  • Bitter, Dismayed, Disturbed, Hurt
  • Cheated, Disquieted, Grieved, Sad

Trick Four: Use Orange Feelings: An individual who experiences no personal growth feel:

  • Ashamed, Distressed, Frustrated, Stymied
  • Broken, Dread, Overloaded, Unbalanced
  • Confounded, Embarrassed, Stressed, Worthless

Trick Five: Use Yellow Feelings: A person who makes no contribution feels:

  • Agony, Desolation, Exasperation, Reproach
  • Anguish, Despair, Rage, Vexation
  • Depression, Despondency, Repression, Wretchedness

As the temperature in the annealing furnace rises, the color of metal (iron) changes. As the emotional pain in the conscience increases, the discomfort in the body becomes more intense. The body alerts consciousness of pending danger.

To come back from a backslidden condition and stop future temptation, write your Firewall Statement on a 3×5 card. Then, you carry it with you throughout the day to block sex cravings.  Read 3×5 card at meal times. Use the card when temptation comes to do unethical sex.

It’s your choice: If you can’t stand the heat, get out!

Regain your dignity. Choose today. Do the exercises now, and keep card with you at all times.

Discover how White Heat pushes out pornography. You only have to know how to generate that White Heat and keep your experience joyfully intense.

Keep on the look out for Part Three of The Fire Technique:

    The Lamp Principle.

To Your Peace,

Dale

Published by: curepornaddiction

In the year 1971 I became a store manager at age 19. I discovered I had a gift for mentoring. I gave one on one coaching, instruction and teaching with ease. And, I loved it. However, I had a problem that held me back from achieving my full potential. I was addicted to porn. When I was going through my puberty years in life, I found pornography (adult magazines) in my Dad's closet. I was hooked. I had my ups and downs throughout my life: Ups, when I was off of porn and using my gift: and, Downs, when I was using porn. Porn captured my attention, holding me back. I found the secrets to breaking free from porn. Like anyone else, I have to work at keeping my emotions positive, every day, to stay free. Limiting emotions--fear, doubt, hate, lust, sloth, pride, any emotion that kills joy. Joy is the ultimate weapon against porn. You have it; porn loses its hold on you. I dedicate this blog to those who are looking for ways to end pornography in their life. To Your Peace, Power and Plenty, Dale P.S. The picture above is not me. The photo represents all families free from pornography.

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