Pornography: Take the First Step

Viewing pornography changed my feelings. I discovered different levels of sexual ecstasy. Experiencing sexual fantasy, a deep despair gripped my mind, emotions, and body. Reaching deeper levels, I fell into self-loathing. I then clicked onto another porn site. I slipped further into disgust. Was there any hope? I had lost meaning for life.

I sought help for my sexual addiction. My therapist advised me to get the book A Gentle Path through the Twelve Steps by Patrick Carnes. He also suggested that I attend Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA) meetings. I did both and started the 12 step program.

In his book, Carnes gives an illustration of how “heroes discover in their limitations, dramatic and unforeseen strengths” (1994, p. 15). I have had feelings that I could make a difference; however, my dark side (addiction) prevented me from connecting with others.

Attending SAA meetings, I admitted I was powerless over my sexual compulsiveness—that my life had become unmanageable. I found others at the meetings naturally helping me through my first step.  Could these members be the heroes?

Carnes, P. (1994). A Gentle path through the twelve steps. Center City; MN: Hazelden Foundation.

Published by: curepornaddiction

In the year 1971 I became a store manager at age 19. I discovered I had a gift for mentoring. I gave one on one coaching, instruction and teaching with ease. And, I loved it. However, I had a problem that held me back from achieving my full potential. I was addicted to porn. When I was going through my puberty years in life, I found pornography (adult magazines) in my Dad's closet. I was hooked. I had my ups and downs throughout my life: Ups, when I was off of porn and using my gift: and, Downs, when I was using porn. Porn captured my attention, holding me back. I found the secrets to breaking free from porn. Like anyone else, I have to work at keeping my emotions positive, every day, to stay free. Limiting emotions--fear, doubt, hate, lust, sloth, pride, any emotion that kills joy. Joy is the ultimate weapon against porn. You have it; porn loses its hold on you. I dedicate this blog to those who are looking for ways to end pornography in their life. To Your Peace, Power and Plenty, Dale P.S. The picture above is not me. The photo represents all families free from pornography.

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