De Mello narrates the findings of a guru in India.
The guru says that whenever a prostitute comes to me for help, she continually talks about God. She says, “I am sick of my life that I am living. I want God.” However, whenever a priest comes to me, he continually talks about sex (De Mello, 1990, p. 15). Unfortunately, neither one breaks free.
For me, the key point is that when I fight pornography I am tied to it. Recently, after six months free from porn, I had a strong pull to go online and view porn. The more I resisted and fought it, the more power it had over me. I relapsed that day. The problem was in resisting. That one incident happened about three weeks ago. Reading De Mello’s story, I realized that I did not have to resist porn just place a value on it. Of course, there is no value.
Now, when a strong urge to view porn comes, I just think: That’s interesting and ask, “Is there any value in this?” I see through porn and focus on peace. I then move on with life. I do things that are advantageous.
Calling a sponsor is advantageous. Moreover, attending weekly meetings keeps perspective on why being addiction free is valuable to me. Others share their stories why they are in recovery.
De Mello, A. (1990). Awareness. (1st ed.). p. 15. New York; NY: Doubleday.