Pornography; Value

Pornography; Value

De Mello narrates the findings of a guru in India.

The guru says that whenever a prostitute comes to me for help, she continually talks about God. She says, “I am sick of my life that I am living. I want God.”  However, whenever a priest comes to me, he continually talks about sex (De Mello, 1990, p. 15).  Unfortunately, neither one breaks free.

For me, the key point is that when I fight pornography I am tied to it. Recently, after six months free from porn, I had a strong pull to go online and view porn. The more I resisted and fought it, the more power it had over me. I relapsed that day. The problem was in resisting.  That one incident happened about three weeks ago.  Reading De Mello’s story, I realized that I did not have to resist porn just place a value on it.  Of course, there is no value.

Now, when a strong urge to view porn comes, I just think: That’s interesting and ask, “Is there any value in this?”  I see through porn and focus on peace.  I then move on with life.  I do things that are advantageous.

Calling a sponsor is advantageous.  Moreover, attending weekly meetings keeps perspective on why being addiction free is valuable to me.  Others share their stories why they are in recovery.


De Mello, A. (1990). Awareness. (1st ed.). p. 15. New York; NY: Doubleday.


Published by: curepornaddiction

In the year 1971 I became a store manager at age 19. I discovered I had a gift for mentoring. I gave one on one coaching, instruction and teaching with ease. And, I loved it. However, I had a problem that held me back from achieving my full potential. I was addicted to porn. When I was going through my puberty years in life, I found pornography (adult magazines) in my Dad's closet. I was hooked. I had my ups and downs throughout my life: Ups, when I was off of porn and using my gift: and, Downs, when I was using porn. Porn captured my attention, holding me back. I found the secrets to breaking free from porn. Like anyone else, I have to work at keeping my emotions positive, every day, to stay free. Limiting emotions--fear, doubt, hate, lust, sloth, pride, any emotion that kills joy. Joy is the ultimate weapon against porn. You have it; porn loses its hold on you. I dedicate this blog to those who are looking for ways to end pornography in their life. To Your Peace, Power and Plenty, Dale P.S. The picture above is not me. The photo represents all families free from pornography.

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