“Out of suffering have emerged
the strongest souls;
the most massive characters
are seared with scars.”
— E. H. Chapin
What do you do with suffering?
Do you hate yourself?
Do you shame yourself?
Do you turn to your sex addiction and abuse yourself?
When a person acts out, they feel pain.
She uses pain to cloak negative emotions.
We cannot push negative energies down. We allow them to surface.
Once they surface, we ask our High Power how to replace negative feelings with good.
In a 12-step program, the first step is realizing that we are powerless; the second is understanding that a Higher Power greater than ourselves will restore us to sanity.
Let negative emotions surface and ask God what to replace them with; a positive emotion.
Example:
You feel despair. You ask, “What do I do to find hope?”
You feel depressed. You ask, “What thoughts make me feel happy?”
You feel overwhelmed. You ask, “How can I relax and enjoy the moment?”
The previous questions are just examples.
You ask your question to rid yourself of negative feelings, and an answer will come to you.
Thanks,
Dale
Reference
Williamson, P., & Kiser, S. (1989). Chapin, E. H. Quote; Answers in the Heart. January 9th. Hazelden Meditations.
Thank you Dale for the suggestions. I’ve been struggling a bit and I know better than to stuff the emotions.
I like how you say it, “Stuff the Emotions.” Eric, I love reading your posts. You are good writer. You paint word pictures that I love seeing.
Dale
Thank you Dale. I truly appreciate your kind words and support.