Pornography: Guaranteed Recovery! The EVOLUTION of the Five Mental States

Just picture this for a moment.  For many, many years, You have maintained sobriety from pornography addiction.

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I didn’t know my impulsive sexual behavior had a name. I couldn’t decipher my sexual feelings.  I did know that a continuous river of explicit nudity and sex acts flowed through my mind. I had an addiction.  The disease affected my mind, body, and spirit and progressed as the months and years passed along. The consequences were evolving into severe danger.

My acting out influenced my consciousness.  The intense sensuality altered my state of mind to have more of the gratification. After an episode, I experienced an intense high satisfying me for a week; then, only a few days; a day; a few hours to only a few minutes.  I’d spend four hours or more surfing the internet for new porn to get the intense high.  I began to act out.  I knew this wasn’t good.  I then started to evolve and find strength in becoming a normal person.  I discovered …

The Evolution of the Five Mental States

  • Pre-Consideration – I was not ready for change. I wanted pornography.  I knew that I was fooling myself, but I felt I couldn’t change.  I can’t or I won’t.
  • Consideration – I thought about stopping quite frequently.  The disadvantages of stopping outweighed the advantages.  I may.
  • Preparation – I knew I had to stop.  I prepared to take action. I read articles and books on how to change.  I will.
  • Action – I took responsibility. I acted on what I had to do.   After visiting three counselors, I picked the right person.  I am.
  • Maintenance – After three years, I continue seeing a counselor. I joined a 12-step program, SAA.  I still am.   (Prochaska, 2008).

Now, I am going into my second year of sobriety, using the Five Mental States in other areas of my life that may affect my sexual addiction.  However, at this stage, for my porn addiction, maintenance is most important to me.

Please Note: The Mental States are universal; however, how you apply them is totally up to you.  You make them work for you.

Thanks,

Dale

Reference

Prochaska, J. (2008). Decision Making in the Transtheoretical Model of Change. mdm.sagepub.com; February 5, 2015. Retrieved  from http://mdm.sagepub.com/content/28/6/845.full.pdf.

 

Published by: curepornaddiction

In the year 1971 I became a store manager at age 19. I discovered I had a gift for mentoring. I gave one on one coaching, instruction and teaching with ease. And, I loved it. However, I had a problem that held me back from achieving my full potential. I was addicted to porn. When I was going through my puberty years in life, I found pornography (adult magazines) in my Dad's closet. I was hooked. I had my ups and downs throughout my life: Ups, when I was off of porn and using my gift: and, Downs, when I was using porn. Porn captured my attention, holding me back. I found the secrets to breaking free from porn. Like anyone else, I have to work at keeping my emotions positive, every day, to stay free. Limiting emotions--fear, doubt, hate, lust, sloth, pride, any emotion that kills joy. Joy is the ultimate weapon against porn. You have it; porn loses its hold on you. I dedicate this blog to those who are looking for ways to end pornography in their life. To Your Peace, Power and Plenty, Dale P.S. The picture above is not me. The photo represents all families free from pornography.

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2 thoughts on “Pornography: Guaranteed Recovery! The EVOLUTION of the Five Mental States”

  1. Thanks for sharing this Dale, I am trying hard to get into my own recovery, but reading this has helped me see what mental state I am in and where I have to get too. My addiction is hard to break because it’s for the love of an addict and my addiction is enabling him. We feed of each other….it’s difficult for me to seperate love and enabling, wanting the best for my loved one and yet not doing what they ask! Think i am in between I may and I will! 😃
    Keep up the hard/good work you seem to be doing well

    1. Thank you, hopelesslyaddicted. My psychologist gave this model for change. After studying it for several weeks, I realized that my life fit into the exactly into the model. I am in the maintenance Mental State, however, not without work. I missed all of SAA support group meetings in January, and I am feeling a pull back to my old ways. I have not relapsed. I am still sober, but I know the feelings of wanting what is not good for me. We have some members in the meeting that say they are addicted to having romance-I think that’s they worded their difficulty. Anyways, having like-minded people understand what you are going through gives you strength. Thanks for your comments.
      Dale

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