Book-on-Pornography: FREE Ebook: Winning; Chapter 1; How Good Does It Feel?

 As you read each word in Chapter One of the book WINNING, you begin to feel your emotional ALERT systems.

You begin to understand how your body communicates with you on how to avoid porn.

Skim over every word in Chapter One and discover hope.

My True Story

What did I really want for my life?  I didn’t even know?

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Is This Really Me? Do I Really Want Porn in My Life?

“It was almost as if was a third-party, from the corner of the room, watching me at my PC, viewing pornography.”

The latest fetish was porn stars performing striptease acts.  Reflexively, compellingly, I found myself surfing for better acts.  I realized my body had a mind of its own.  At the time, I thought of my porn self being controlled by my unconscious mind.

What was I doing?  I found a site that I literally became enthused over that I purchased a membership using my bank card.  What was I thinking?

The name on the sales transaction was not related to pornography. This was great.  The porn site appeared legitimate (safe).  However, that really did not matter.  I had a problem.  The numerous striptease and porn sites became boring.  Masturbation took forever to complete.

I did some researched on how emotions controlled feelings and how they locked a person into an addiction.

Yes, I did want porn in my life or else I would have stopped.

The paradox: I hated pornography, but I loved it more.

My body uses sensations and feelings to communicate subconsciously
intent (medicate pain) as well as what I am focusing on at any given moment (beliefs).

Thoughts cause emotions, and emotions chemically activate feelings, and then feelings motivate actions, translating intent of one’s focus or intent.

What causes me to have stressful, fearful, uncomfortable, lonely, angry, hurtful, frustrated, disappointed, guilty, regretful, inadequate feelings?

My beliefs cause intense feelings to want more of porn.  Actually, my beliefs triggered emotions that triggered my feelings that triggered an intensity of having to have the pornography that gave me the relief that I needed to rid myself of much pain.

In my research, I discovered that if I change the meaning of how think about a circumstance.  My physical feelings changed.

Moreover, PHYSICAL SENSATIONS CHANGED.

I began to pay attention to my feelings.

imagesZ6PCO20S If limiting feelings persisted (such as stress), my body automatically responded to emotional pain. If a short skirt passed by me, my head would turn.  If a grocery clerk bent over, I either would automatically see her cleavage or bottom.  I felt sensations pass through me.  I felt better.

I began to understand that my mind and body were on autopilot.

Below, you will find life changing ideas.

The Pornography Industry programmed people to watch porn over and over again even when they do not want to do so.

Porn and masturbation make people feel good.  However, it conditions the body (unconscious part of the brain) to use sexual feelings (pleasure) to medicate pain (painful emotions: angst, anxiety, stress, frustration, depression…).

Feelings of self-preservation at the cellular level of the body (and brain) were created to move an individual away from pain (things not good) and toward pleasure (that is good).  Wholesome pleasure leaves lasting satisfaction.

The subconscious mind does not evaluate what it uses to alleviate the pain. It just medicates the pain with pleasure in turn begins the conditioning process.

If you used masturbation or pornography to relieve painful feelings (stress) in the past, then your body automatically resurfaces sexual feelings to alleviate similar painful feelings or stressors.

Important: immediately switch negative feelings with empowering thoughts.  New feelings dissipate old sensations.  Even if a person is viewing porn, at the time, the body will lose arousal sensations.

What empowering emotions can a person use to alleviate sensual feelings from emotion?

For example, Who are you grateful for right now.

Focus on caring, appreciation, gratitude, determination, curiosity, excitement, passion, flexibility, confidence, cheerfulness, and vitality.

Think on the list above and ponder on the one that stood out to you.

Center your entire thoughts … that feeling.

In the following Chapter,  I go into greater detail of my battle with pornography and how I used my mind and body to overcome porn.

Go to Chapter 2.

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What’s Your Purpose? …This Is Your Power!
What’s Your Purpose? …This Is Your Power!

Published by: curepornaddiction

In the year 1971 I became a store manager at age 19. I discovered I had a gift for mentoring. I gave one on one coaching, instruction and teaching with ease. And, I loved it. However, I had a problem that held me back from achieving my full potential. I was addicted to porn. When I was going through my puberty years in life, I found pornography (adult magazines) in my Dad's closet. I was hooked. I had my ups and downs throughout my life: Ups, when I was off of porn and using my gift: and, Downs, when I was using porn. Porn captured my attention, holding me back. I found the secrets to breaking free from porn. Like anyone else, I have to work at keeping my emotions positive, every day, to stay free. Limiting emotions--fear, doubt, hate, lust, sloth, pride, any emotion that kills joy. Joy is the ultimate weapon against porn. You have it; porn loses its hold on you. I dedicate this blog to those who are looking for ways to end pornography in their life. To Your Peace, Power and Plenty, Dale P.S. The picture above is not me. The photo represents all families free from pornography.

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7 thoughts on “Book-on-Pornography: FREE Ebook: Winning; Chapter 1; How Good Does It Feel?”

  1. Hi Dale…. I know we’ve crossed paths before. Your post is amazing. In particular….

    “The subconscious mind doesn’t evaluate what it uses to alleviate the pain. It just medicate pain with pleasure, using past conditioning”.

    I despised my father’s drinking and alcoholism. Yet when the squeeze of life hit me in my 30’s, thats exactly where I went. I suppose this was my subconscious medicating pain with pleasure and using past experience to choose my avenue of pleasure. Even a pleasure that I did not engage in much myself through the earlier part of my life, however, it had been modeled to me indelibly at a very young age.

    I was as surprised as anyone that I started drinking.

    Now, as you term, “virtue” is the gateway to legitimate pleasures. Like family, work, fitness, recovery, service to others, service to God.

    Never forgetting of course that the alcoholism is likely now hard-wired in. If I stray from a vituous life, I am highly likely to revert to old thinking, feeling, behaving. Not worth taking a chance to find out.

    Ciao.

    Chaz

    1. Thanks Chad for your post. Your comments are extremely helpful. You show how we all are wired the same, not only electrically but emotionally.

      Emotions (both painful and pleasurable feelings) are the keys to our freedom.

      It doesn’t matter if it’s alcohol, pornography, drugs or whatever’s trying to destroy a person’s life, the force–pain and pleasure–can break past condition and free a person now.

      Feel the pain; change; and then, Focus on the intense pleasure from virtuous choices.

      Virtue (is spiritual not religious) provides the true blissful delight that protects and satisfies. Bliss without virtue leaves one empty and needing more.

      If we pay attention to emotions and how they work, then “pain and pleasure” feelings help not hurt.

      I am beginning to believe feelings are the emotional guardians of the body, spirit and soul. They warn of danger and confirm virtue, good living. When we are on the virtuous path, God blesses us with intense delight, an unexplainable feeling, joy.

      Joy blocks addictive cravings.

      To your peace, power and plenty
      Dale

  2. Dale,
    I am having a very stressful time in my life, and while I find your positive life changing skills challenging at times. Finding satisfaction with ones self, is not easy! You may be directing speaking about addiction, but your words apply to everyone. I appreciate it. Have a great day!
    NIBSIH!

    1. Thank you for your response. If you need a friend, sometime, a therapist or a support group can become friends or even a best girlfriend. I want you to be happy and find peace. Thanks,
      Dale

      1. Thanks,
        I just need to change how I think. Inner negative creates more. Just because life is challenging, doesn’t mean you have to look at the negative (even if there is a lot of it). There are positives. You just have to find it, I used to be THAT annoying person. Lol. I just got lost. I have friends and a therapist. They don’t get it. I will be happy, because I want to be! 😊

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