Free E-book on Pornography: WINNING; How to Beat Porn

Judge for Yourself

Whether or Not

You Want to Beat Porn!

For the next two weeks, I will share my personal story about being a sex addict and how I got a handle on my emotions

Explore the ebook WINNING to get help.

I will post one Chapter at a time from the ebook WINNING; How to Beat Pornography.

Eleven postings for the ebook will include a message from the author.

God, my heart is open to You.

I know that You will show me

the best way so that I can make amends.

(Williamson & Kiser, 1989)

http://amazed-by-grace.com/tag/prayer/
Hope Is Alive

WINNING;
How to Beat Pornography

By Dale Criswell

 Winning; How to Beat Pornography
Copyright 2009-2015
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The Outline

Winning

Message from the Author

Chapter One:  Tip #1      How Good Does It Feel?

Chapter Two: Tip #2:      Use Pain with Pleasure to Stop Porn Now

Chapter Three: Tip #3:   Conditioning Breaks Patterns of Relapse

Chapter Four: Tip #4:     Pleasurable Alternatives

Chapter Five: Tip #5:      Outrageous Love

Chapter Six: Tip #6:        Sexual Feelings Are Natural

Chapter Seven: Tip #7:   Experiment: Test Your P.U.R.P.O.S.E.

Chapter Eight: Tip #8:     Empowering Beliefs … Overcome Pornography

Chapter Nine: Tip #9:     Prevent Future Relapses. Live through the Pain.

Chapter Ten: Tip #10:     Don’t Ignore Your Feelings

Message from the Author

Dear Friend,

Note: I am providing the Free ebook, WINNING.

I hope WINNING;   How to  Beat Pornography  helps you break free and realize your dreams.

Don’t be fooled: Porn will hold you back from achieving what you desire from life.

Now, Read and Use the material as you wish.

My Story: 

I was addicted to pornography for more than 40 years; until one day, I discovered a power, a force per say, within me that even pornography couldn’t withstand.

That force was the ‘pain and pleasure’ principle. When the emotional pain from doing porn became so severe, I finally came to the breaking point.

I confessed, “I’ve had it. I must stop!” In that moment, instantaneously, I quit pornography.  However, It Was Just the Beginning of Understanding How to Stop.  At that moment I did change toward the good.

What caused me to change? I wanted to rid myself of intense pain in conjunction with the desire for the pleasures of good living: the pleasure of comfort, the pleasure of self-esteem, the pleasure of integrity, the pleasure of worship.

Consciously, I wanted to stop the pain; unconsciously I craved the pleasure of a wholesome life.

Then, I had an “Ah Ha” experience. I had hope.

I knew I could stop a relapse, learn from it, and have more power over other relapse, if any.

My magnificent obsession of wanting my life back caused me to make a decision, confessing, “No More!”

 Thanking God for His strength, an incredible joy consumed me.

Profound pleasure filled the core of my being.

At that moment I knew pornography had lost its control over me. A deep feeling of relief spread throughout me.

Don’t be fooled. You have a power within you to change.

“God created within mankind two sovereign powers, pain and pleasure;
these powers rule us in all we think, say or do: Ignoring their influence harms us; harnessing their power controls our destiny.”
—Tony Robbins

Not until I understood the force—the pain and pleasure principle—did I make progress. There were steps to recovery.

As time progressed, relapses became slips, and learning from the slips caused me to have even fewer slips preventing a full blown relapse.

When I felt greater pleasure from being free, than doing pornography, I realized the pain was not worth it.

Doing porn was painful and not doing was pleasurable.

Then, three beliefs began to root into my conscience.

I must change.
Change is possible.
I can change.

These three beliefs gave me the emotional power to work on my recovery.

Now, Go to Chapter One; P.U.R.P.O.S.E: What’s Your Purpose?

As you read each word in Chapter One, you’ll transform your focus.  Pornography no looks favorable but a hindrance.

You choose to focus on your purpose.

To Your Sobriety,

Dale Criswell

 Reference

Williamson, P., & Kiser, S. (1989). Answers in the Heart; daily meditations for men and women recovering from Sex Addiction: April 14th.  Hazelden.

Published by: curepornaddiction

In the year 1971 I became a store manager at age 19. I discovered I had a gift for mentoring. I gave one on one coaching, instruction and teaching with ease. And, I loved it. However, I had a problem that held me back from achieving my full potential. I was addicted to porn. When I was going through my puberty years in life, I found pornography (adult magazines) in my Dad's closet. I was hooked. I had my ups and downs throughout my life: Ups, when I was off of porn and using my gift: and, Downs, when I was using porn. Porn captured my attention, holding me back. I found the secrets to breaking free from porn. Like anyone else, I have to work at keeping my emotions positive, every day, to stay free. Limiting emotions--fear, doubt, hate, lust, sloth, pride, any emotion that kills joy. Joy is the ultimate weapon against porn. You have it; porn loses its hold on you. I dedicate this blog to those who are looking for ways to end pornography in their life. To Your Peace, Power and Plenty, Dale P.S. The picture above is not me. The photo represents all families free from pornography.

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8 thoughts on “Free E-book on Pornography: WINNING; How to Beat Porn”

  1. This in so inspiring to two thirds of our three members. Our partnership, going strong for over 10 years, recently suffered a major loss when one of our members got caught downloading porn on state funded faculty computers. It took a government seizure of much of our equipment to finally get Joey and Jake to face their demons, admit they had a problem and seek treatment. Your blog posts has been an immense inspiration. Keep up the great work, and thanks again!
    God Bless!
    -VentureTek

  2. i am happy this helps. Porn affect the Seat of our Soul, which affect everything we do, because Porn kills the joy we were intended to have. Joy causes us to become successful in all our endeavors. When a person loses joy, he/she loses the enthusiasm (spark) for life. We need this spark to operate at our genius levels (brilliance). We have everything we need to be successful, if we have the joy. Fortunately, we can seek it again and find it. But people need to be cautious; the Giver doesn’t have to give back what’s lost.
    To Your Peace, Power and Plenty
    Dale

  3. LOOKING AT A MOUNTAIN I MUST CLIMB,
    WALLS SO HIGH I FEEL TINGLING IN MY SPINE,
    I MUST MAKE IT MUST SOAR ONCE MORE,
    I’VE MADE THE CLIMB SO MANY TIMES,
    AND ONLY FLAILED AS I FAILD AND FELL TO THE VALLEY FLOOR,
    YET THE TREASURE I SEEK IS JUST OVER THAT PEAK,
    THE PRICE FOR SUCCESS I MUST AFFORD,
    ‘CAUSE I CANT FIND A REASON OF ANY KIND IN MY HEART, SOUL, OR MIND,
    WHY GREATNESS SHOULD BE IGNORED.

    1. Hi Kit,

      Great Poem.

      The meaning is profound.

      Treasure is in you because it was put there.

      As you clear your mind, you see things more valuable than diamonds or jewels anyone can afford.

      However, a clear mind opens ways to receive the physical treasures as well.

      Keep up the good work. You are worth it!
      The treasures are there.

      To your peace,
      DaleHelps

  4. I recently come to a point in life where I finally said enough is enough I was stricken grasping power of the addiction and how it left feeling condemn after every time I visited a port site.

    Recently I fell before the Lord on my knees confessing my sins and I felt this love like an endless river pour upon me, it was at that point I realized the power of the Holy Spirit taking root within me.

    I sensed the Lord cheering me on like come on son you can beat this addiction with my help and power. I admit that because I recently stopped some days have more stressful than others and those are the days I really have and need to call upon the Lord, because I know with my own strength I would fail each time.

    I noticed the title said free e-book is there a link you’re offering to download the e-book?

    1. Thanks for your comments. I can relate to what said about porn. I wept before God felt His refreshing Spirit fill me up and cleanse me.
      I have the eBook written, but I am adding new research to existing Chapters. I’ll do my best to keep the reading times down. Most people like me to get to the point. You may follow my blog and get first hand publishing of each Chapter.

      Thanks,
      Dale

      1. Oh, okay thank you! You’re welcome for the comment I really felt moved by your post and felt lead to share with you and the readers. 😊

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