As you keep skimming through this chapter, you’re thinking of how painful it would be to lose your wife and kids.
A family breakup would become devastating to you.
Wouldn’t it be great if you had a tool that kills porn cravings every time?
Judge for yourself. Keep Reading.
I wanted to quit pornography, but I could not seem to do it.
One midnight, in the dark, I sat at the computer. I looked for something to excite me. A porn site popped up that I had not seen in the past. I checked off the 18 and Over box to enter site. Also, on the landing page, I noticed a disclaimer about the ages of the models; all 18 and older. The Website specialized in Videos. I entered.
Bam!!!
I young girl looked no more than a Middle School girl. I quickly clicked away from the scene. The problem was that I was consummating masturbation.
While trying to get off the site, I an intense physiological arousal. I was emotionally disgusted with myself. I could not get the images out of my head. The pornography industry knew how to catch prey in more than one way.
I wanted to quit porn. I quit many times, but I could not make stopping last.
Why?
What’s wrong with me?
Was I born a sex addict or had a sex addict gene in my DNA.
Was there any hope for me?
Yes!
It’s not a question of being good or having hope. It’s a matter of emotional leverage.
Stopping pornography for any length of time proves capability.
It’s a matter of motivation, getting leverage.
“The secret to overcoming pornography is learning how to link unbearable and immediate sensations of pain to doing porn, and intense and immediate sensations of pleasure to being free.”
If you associate pain to pornography and pleasure to freedom, you gain Self-Control over porn.
If you don’t, pornography controls you.
The only way to stop pornography now is to create a sense of urgency that’s so intense that you’re compelled to follow through.
The greatest leverage you can have over porn is to created intense pain on the inside, knowing you are not living up to your fullest capability, not living up to your standards, not living up to what’s most important to you.
Why can’t you quit?
Answer: You misplaced your pain.
The addictive person unconsciously associates more pain to stopping pornography than not stopping. Simply reverse this.
Associate intensive pain to not stopping porn and intense pleasure to quitting pornography now.
Complete this exercise:
First, Write an answer to each question. Physically writing an answer makes your emotional response intense.
Begin. Jot down thoughts.
- How much pain would this cost me? (Write descriptive, intense, horrible feelings.)
- Ultimately, what will I lose in my life, if I don’t stop pornography? (Write an answer.)
- What will it cost me, if I don’t change?
- What’s pornography already costing me mentally, emotionally, physically, financially and spiritually?
- How would pornography affect my love ones, people I care about most?
Second: After each question answer this: “How much pleasure (intense joy) will I experience?”
- If I stop pornography, how will I feel about myself, accomplishing this goal?
- What positive direction will my life take, quitting porn?
- What things can I accomplish in my life, if I stop pornography once and for all?
- How much happier will I be, quitting pornography, regaining self-respect?
Intensive pain will move you away from pornography; intense pleasure (joy) will keep you away from porn. So, focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want.
When you make your vision, voice and feelings on the inside to become more profound than the circumstances on the outside, then you master your life. You create long term change.
For more information Read the FREE eBook, You and God Cure Pornography Addiction listed on this Web site in the Pages Section.
Keep on the Look Out for Chapter Three Tip #3 …Break the Relapse Pattern in the upcoming post.
To Your
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Reference
Robbins, A. (1992). Awaken the Giant within; how to take immediate control of your mental, emotional, physical & financial destiny! New York; NY: Fireside.
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