Free E-book on Pornography: Winning; Chapter 6; Sexual Arousals Are Warning Signals Not Triggers

Are you looking for help? Consider the following tip.

Tip of the Day: Sexual Feelings Are Not Triggers. Feeling sexual energy passing through the body is only a warning to control your thoughts.

Sexual Feelings then pass you along the way.

Becoming sexually aroused doesn’t mean you failed, not even if you experience extreme hardness.

Change the meaning of sensual feelings.

For example, here are some new beliefs:

• Sexual feelings are natural; they happen on their own accord.
• The body is neutral.
• It only reacts to stimuli according to past conditioning and to natural love.
• There is no need to feel guilty when become extreme aroused.

Because of past conditioning, you may see an image, a movie star, a young jogger, billboards; whatever, just say cancel, cancel. The sensual feelings will leave you in 15 minutes or less.

By all means, don’t masturbate or view porn, even if you feel extreme hardness. Change the meaning of the sensations; they are meant to serve
you. Simply enjoy the feelings. They will pass on their own accord.

Meaning Change
Sexual sensations warn of hurtful behaviors, affirm loving thoughts, or the feelings come because it is that time of the month (easy arousals)– passing within two or three days).

It’s what you do with sexual feelings that matters. Keep your mind pure. Don’t fantasize about anyone other than your partner. Sexual feelings are reserved for your spouse or significant other, and so are sexual thoughts.

Become proactive. Plan how you want to react when sexual sensations come.

 

Triggers serve; not harm. They actually flip on the security light, revealing cravings.

According to past porn conditioning, cravings are desires that activate sensual hunger for sexual release.

A trigger doesn’t cause you to automatically view porn or masturbate. The trigger activates a craving. You still have time to respond.

If you see, hear or do something that sets you off (trigger), then intercede. Even if you find yourself in front of your PC, clicking onto a porn site, you can stop. Say, “I don’t want this.” Then, click off the site. Get up and leave.

Celebrate that you stopped. Don’t feel guilt. You’re in control. You have Divine power (strength) inside you to break the porn hold.

Make sure you focus on your personal good points. Being negative about yourself will push you back into porn.

If you become aroused by someone or something (image), adjust accordingly; simply switch your thoughts. You have 1 to 3 seconds to react.

When a thought is held in the mind any longer, the body unconsciously seeks more of the same stimuli, yet more intense. You consciously start to lust for more, even if you don’t want it.

Secret: before it intensifies (even if it does), switch your thoughts.

However, if lust produces more sexual responses, you still can escape. Immediately change focus. Focus on something that makes you happy (nonsexual). The sexual sensations will leave you.

There are three emotion-generating functions of the body that control human behavior.

These elements of power are: focus, words and physiology.

The driving force of these functions is found in a person’s belief system.

Beliefs cause emotions. Limiting beliefs cause hurtful feelings, limiting personal effectiveness.

The three functions in which a trigger activates the body’s senses (tingling, prickling and arousing sensations) are:

1. Focus
2. Words
3. Physiology

Focus: What you see externally or internally can stimulate you, even unconsciously. It makes no difference to the body; it naturally responds to stimulus. Your eyes can fall on someone attractive or a random thought can stimulate you. Even if you only feel a slight sensation, react swiftly.

Avert eyes and switch thoughts. Switch thoughts to a premeditated image. Example: See yourself: lovingly holding your spouse.

Words: What you say or someone else says can cause sexual reactions.

A novel, music, movie dialogue or conversation can stimulate the body with sensations. Just change the subject or change the situation. Sometimes, you may need to graciously excuse yourself.

Physiology or Actions: Behavior, an innocent hug is okay; while on the other hand you may have a sexual reaction with someone. There isn’t anything wrong with you or that person. You may consider not hugging that person in the future or change the meaning of the hug.

Also, the unconscious mind alerts you to your physiology: Example: gestures; facial expressions (flirtatious eyes or smile), leaning into someone’s personal space, posture (head tilting, hip jutting or arm and hand placement on your body).

Your body uses sensations to instantaneously alert the conscience changes are needed. Simply switch your focus, alter what you say, or change your physiology.

Allow the sexual feeling to run its course. What you resist will persist; simply let the feelings pass.

 

Action plan:

Make a list of triggers you’ve had in the past and write how you will
respond to those triggers in the future: what your focus, words and physiology will be.

List of Triggers NOW: Decide: Take the Time Now.

Future Response (how you will change your focus, words or behavior):

To Your Peace,

Dale Criswell