Free Ebook on Pornography: Chapter 8; Sizzling Beliefs Overcome Porn Addiction

A Sizzling Belief Overcomes Pornography

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Believe and See

A belief is a feeling of absolute certainty that something is so.

Empowering beliefs focus only on those things that give you positive energies such as virtue.

Disempowering beliefs are feelings of absolute certainty that are so and limit you such as lust, greed, pride, etc….

Ending the usage of pornography begins  with changing those limiting beliefs.

So, how does a person change his (her) beliefs?

That individual must associate massive amounts of pain to the old limiting beliefs; and then, link massive amounts of pleasure to new empowering beliefs.

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Enlightenment

Limiting beliefs cause emotional pain and physical discomfort (feelings and sensations).

These disempowering beliefs keep a person doing porn.

Remember: Everything we do we do to avoid pain and move toward pleasure.

If this be the case, then why can’t an individual break free from pornography?

He avoids changing because he believes he’ll have more pain stopping porn than continuing.

He gets immediate pleasure doing porn.

In order to stop porn he must doubt old limiting beliefs about ending pornography.

Example of an old belief: I’ll never be able to stop. I’ve relapsed so many times there’s no hope for me. I stopped for a while; but then, something happened.  I get frustrated; and then, I go back to porn.

Do these beliefs sound familiar?

Then, how do you quit pornography? Create doubt.

Doubt the old limiting beliefs by imagining what it is you want and how much pleasure you’ll receive ending pornography, once and for all. Then, reverse the old limiting belief with a new empowering belief.

For example: Old belief: I can’t stop. I always relapse back into porn. Now you create doubt…

Some empowering beliefs:  Because I’m making progress every day in every way, I can stop pornography.

With each relapse, I gain understanding from my experience. My relapses are fewer and farther between.

Now, if I feel sexual feelings, I cause new these sensations to trigger empowering beliefs. I feel a deep sense of gratitude for the progress that I am making. I let the sexual feelings pass.

I pray, “God, thank you for your strength. I can do this. I choose the power you gave me to end porn now.

Question something long enough and you’ll eventually doubt its validity and power, including limiting beliefs about pornography.

New successes trigger more change. Use your successes as proof the old limiting beliefs are lies.

Always focus on the outcome you want. When limiting beliefs float back into your thoughts, say something like this, “Nope, that’s a lie. I can do this.”

Then, associate massive pain to porn and massive pleasure to being free. Consistently do this until your body automatically blocks porn.

Do this exercise: Write a new empowering belief for each disempowering belief.

Disempowering Beliefs: Change the old with new beliefs. The following beliefs are example only; empower yourself by creating your own beliefs.

Belief #1: I can’t stop pornography; no matter how hard I try. New belief: It’s a matter of choice. I can do porn or I can stop. I choose to end the emotional pain by stopping. I choose to experience pleasure by living a wholesome life.

Belief #2: I always relapse, because I’m weak. New Belief: That’s who I was. Now, I’m strong. I face my feelings. I allow the sexual feelings to run their course. However, I associate those sexual feelings to loving and pleasing my soul mate.

Belief #3: I can’t stop pornography, because I am bad. New Belief: I am good. Pornography has met needs in the past in a very limited way; but now, I have better alternatives than pornography to meet my needs. I am a virtuous man.

Belief #4: I’ll never do anything worthwhile; so, why does it matter. New Belief: I have done good things in my life. I matter; therefore, I protect my self-esteem by ending pornography now.

Belief #5: It’s my dad’s fault for having pornography in the house. New Belief: Yes, it’s his fault for having porn in the home; but, I chose to view porn, even when I knew it was wrong. Now, I empower my life. I choose the pleasures of joyful living.

Belief #6: No one cares about me; so, what’s the point. New Belief: I care about me. I choose to treat myself well.

Belief #7: God won’t forgive me, because I’ve gone too far. New Belief: I know God still cares for me. I know God wants to forgive me, because I still love Him. I ask Him for forgiveness and He forgives me. I forgive me.

Belief #8: I’ve nothing to offer. New Belief: I have a lot to offer. I’m special, rare and valuable in God’s sight.

Belief #9: I don’t know what to do. New Belief: I know what I don’t want; no more pain. I like the feelings I experience when I feel joy. So, I seek joy in everything I do.

Belief #10: My future is bleak. New Belief: The past does not equal the future.

Now, ponder the following power beliefs  and feel the strength to overcome porn.

Sizzling Empowering Beliefs: Examples; personalize them. Fit them to you.

Belief #1: I can do pornography or not do it; it’s my choice. I don’t have to do anything. I choose not to do pornography because it’s harmful to me; therefore, I choose freedom.

Belief #2: I am responsible; therefore, I choose how I think, talk and act. I choose to love myself and then others. I choose to be free of pornography.

Belief #3: God creates only masterpieces; therefore, everything I need I have within me right now.

Belief #4: I am a rare work of genius; I am significant and have the intelligence to live the good life.

Belief #5: My divine gift makes a difference; I am God’s gift to the world. Therefore, I have something to contribute.

Belief #6: I make friends easily and frequently; therefore, I attract people who care and encourage me. I value my relationships; therefore, I choose to do things that make me emotionally strong.

Belief #7: I am God’s son (daughter); therefore, I choose not to view porn, because it damages my emotional capacity to love God with all my heart and love my neighbor as myself.

Belief #8: I choose chaste living, because I know what’s important to me.

Belief #9: I am a success; my confidence overpowers pornography.

Belief #10: I have a positive future, because I seek joy in everything I do.

The subconscious mind doesn’t distinguish fact from fiction; whatsoever you believe, your subconscious mind will cause you to achieve. Fake it till you make it. Act on an empowering belief, until that belief becomes a reality.

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Pure Delight; Peak State

Imperative: Transform your beliefs into peak state experiences by empowering thoughts to power your emotions. Do these three things:

1. Focus: visualize what it is you want.
2. Confess: speak power words to describe what you want.
3. Act: play out the vision in your mind by doing what empowers you.

These three steps create Empowering Faith, energizing your mind and body with power emotions (strength, confidence, perseverance, diligence, faith, hope, love, peace, joy…).

Be careful what you think, say or do; they affect your beliefs. Disempowering thoughts cause a quitter’s attitude: weakness, fear, doubt, hate, turmoil, anger.

As a person believes, so shall it be unto him.

Now, turn to Chapter 9 and discover how to prevent relapses.

Thanks,

Dale Criswell

2 thoughts on “Free Ebook on Pornography: Chapter 8; Sizzling Beliefs Overcome Porn Addiction”

  1. today has been rough, its like every bit of my selfish inner man is trying to take back lost terretory. I realize now why I used to struggle: I wasn’t focusing on God. I now have energy I just need to refocus, speaking of energy, I feel extremely lethargic and thats always a set up to laziness leading me back to unfruitfulness. NOT going to happen if everything took ten days to cure life would be easy.

  2. Hi Kit,

    You’re right it takes time.

    When you break away from limiting sexual behaviors (there are empowering),
    your body goes on a 7 time delay.

    Example: You commit to clear thinking (virtue thoughts). YOu feel great stopping.
    Days 1-4, you feel strong.
    Day 5, you seem to be pulled to sexual attractions.
    Day 6, you feel a stronger pull.
    Day 7, you often feel low grade sexual tension in your pelvic region.

    Don’t fret. There’s nothing wrong with your commitment, or your ability to withstand limiting sexual thoughts.

    When you feel unwanted sexual tension in your body, this is good. Your body is warning to shift your focus to things that will take your mind off of triggers (unhealthy sexual images–real, imagined or pictures).

    I usually ask God what virtue I need–faith, patience, self-control, kindness, love or a spirit of meeness. Then I shift my focus to one of those virtues and think about positive aspects of that virtue.

    It’s amazing what happens. The sexual tension leave me, usually immediately.

    To your peace,
    Dale

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