Pornography and masturbation permeate all aspects of life.
If you relapse,
Use the Slide as a learning experience,
Not a bludgeoning tool.
Or, you’ll always
relapse back into
pornography.
However, live through the pain, Use the painful experience as a reference point to block future cravings for porn.
Doing pornography causes pain. Feel the pang of guilt, experience the shame.
Realize the loneliness with the alienation from the shameful act of viewing girls who may be underage or even victims of sex trafficking.
Feeling these emotions is proof you still have hope.
If you couldn’t feel anything, then your conscience would be seared. Your conscience could not guide you back to God.
Feeling the sensations of disgust in your gut, you realize that pain is learning not to do. You are one step closer to completely conquering pornography.
However, pay attention to what happens next; one, two or three days after your episode with pornography. The experience will feel like an emotional hell.
Feel the pain. Don’t ignore it. Actually, intensify it. Make the pain feel worse. Create beliefs that associate massive pain to the relapse experience.
Live through the pain. Keep a journal of how awful, sickening, horrific, and terrible the pain feels.
Write down your experience, asking yourself, “How does this painful experience affect my motivation? How do these painful feelings affect my relationships with family members, friends and business associates? How do I feel about myself?”
When intensity of painful emotions floods you, anchor the pain by clasping your left wrist with your right hand. Associate the massive amounts of pain from porn to the wrist.
When sexual cravings come on you to go online to view porn, you simply grab a hold of the left wrist with your right hand remembering the awful pain that you felt. Wait a few minutes and fell the cravings subside. Wait 15 minutes and desire to view porn go away entirely.
Don’t resist the sexual cravings; just allow the physical feelings to run their course.
Painful emotional feelings move you away from porn. Focus on the joy of making a difference, the purpose you have chosen for your life. Porn kills that joy, removes effectiveness of your contributions.
When you find purpose, the pleasure of porn does not measure to the joy from your life purpose
Don’t Kill Joy.
Keeping a journal creates a keen self-awareness of feelings and sensations. Write down your experiences.
The knowledge, understanding, and wisdom that you gain from relapsing is extremely valuable to ending pornography in your life.
Whenever temptation would come, I would stop cravings for porn by either reviewing my journal or remembering the intense painful feelings I experienced days after viewing porn. The painful feelings were awful.
We Have Hope the Powers of Pain and Pleasure Move Us to Freedom.
Thanks,
Dale Criswell
THE OLD TESTAMENT IN THE BIBLE RELATES A PROVERB THAT SAYS ITS THE LITTLE FOXES THAT DESTROY THE VINYARD. THE LITTLE FOXES CANT REACH THE BUNCHES OF GRAPES THE ADULTS CAN REACH SO THEY SCRATCH AND CLAW AT THE BASE DAMAGING THE STEM AND ROOTS. I HAVE NOTICED WALKING AWAY FROM ANY KIND OF TRIGGER, ESPECIALLY THOSE INSTANCES ONLY YOU AND GOD KNOW ABOUT ALLOWS STRENGTH TO FLOW NOT ONLY GIVING YOU SUPPORT AGAINST PORN BUT AGAINST SINFUL AREAS OF YOUR LIFE IN GENERAL. I HAVE ALSO LEARNED FROM THE NEW TESTAMENT A PARABLE OF A SERVANT WHO COULDNT BE TRUSTED IN SIMPLE THINGS SO HIS MASTER WOULDNT ALLOW HIM GREATER RESPONSIBILITY. COULD IT BE THAT THE SIMPLEST THINGS THAT SEEM SO INSIGNIFICANT (LIKE A QUICK GLANCE) COULD BE HOLDING YOUR WHOLE LIFE BACK, AND THE LITTLE FOXES YOU ALLOW TO DIG AND GNAW KEEP YOUR LIFE FROM PRODUCING THE GOOD FRUIT YOU DESIRE? COULD YOU BLOSSOM IN LIFE IF YOU ALLOWED THE DAMAGE TO HEAL? REMEMBER ITS THE LITTLE THINGS THAT STEER YOUR LIFE. THE MIGHTIEST OF SHIPS ARE STEERED BY A SMALL RUTTER. NEXT TIME YOU FACE TEMPTATION IN SECRET, PLACE GOD ABOVE YOURSELF. YOU WILL NOTICE HOW IT AFFECTS OTHER AREAS OF YOUR LIFE YOU SAY YOU STRUGGLE WITH.
Hi Kit,
Great Post!
It’s the small stuff that counts. Actually, everything counts.
I like what you said, “Place God Above Yourself.”
You can’t go wrong!
Your wise words cause a thought to hit my brain.
The feelings we experience (joy) is worth it.
When my eyes drift to a woman, I immediately click away my eyes.
I look away.
Attune oneness with God:
I want the musical instrument inside me to vibrate on God’s key.
I don’t want to lose the feelings I have for God.
I want to keep that joy.
Thanks Kit for a great post.
DaleHelps