More than 45 years, on and off viewing porn, I discovered a Force per say that controls porn cravings.
That force was the “pain and pleasure” principle. When the pain became an emotional hell, I screamed, “I’ve had it.” I then quit.
Why did I stop? I wanted to rid myself of the emotional pain, anxiety, depression, guilt….
When I stopped, it felt good. For awhile, I focused on those pleasurable feelings. I noticed I had no interest with inappropriate sexual stimulation.
Then, I had an “Ah Ha” experience. I realized I could control what was going on in my body.
God created two sovereign powers, pain and pleasure; these powers rule us in all we think, feel, and do: Ignoring their influence hurts us; harnessing their power controls our destiny–Anthony Robbins.
Not until I realized the force—the pain and pleasure principle—did I find a way to use the sexual urges and cravings as Warning Signals to alert me to possible relapses.
Sexual feelings in themselves are not wrong. They are meant to be enjoyed. Your significant other desires your love. When you give that love, your body sexually anchors those intimate feelings to your body.
Now, when I have sexual feelings, I don’t resist. I allow those feeling to pass. I put my mind other things. However, when those feeling come, I simply say, “These feelings are reserved for my soul mate.” Also, any sexual thoughts I reserve for my soul mate, as well. I push out of my mind people, places and things that would pull me away from being true.
This Blog tells of past and present challenges.
If you came here expecting to find someone who has all the answers, and you expect me not to have challenges with porn; then, you came to the wrong place.
I have to work at it, every day, just like any person with an addiction. I even have slipped after I started writing the blog.
However, I learned from slips and choose fidelity.
Most importantly, I forgive myself.
So, if it bothers you that I have to work at it everyday to stay free from porn. I understand. You may not want to read this Blog.
However, I’m in this with you. Together, we can beat this thing. I will be open about my feelings and failures. I also will be open about what works for me, as well.
Now, there’s one thing I do know: “In the past, I was a mind numb robot.”
Today, I have an edge.
Porn is losing its control, more and more.
To Your Freedom,